Friday, October 28, 2011

Birthday Cake Guilt!



...so Tuesday was Toby's 5th Birthday, we planned on going out to eat with Grandma and Grandpa at the China Buffet.  Toby was so excited and knew he had to wait all day to go, then we could come back afterwards and open presents.  

...so I always...always...make a Birthday Cake and for some crazy reason, justified in my head that Toby would be fine...we were eating out at an all you can eat food...ice cream....cake....I knew we would all be stuffed and the last thing we would want to eat when we got back was CAKE.
....so, yes I did feel a bit guilty all day long and didn't do anything about it, I assumed everything would be fine and the guilt would go away.  

....so we went out to eat and totally stuffed ourselves.  Came back, sang Happy Birthday (without a cake) ;o(   Then opened presents.
...so everything was going well.  Toby opened all his presents and was playing with them.  The GUILT was getting better at this point.

until....... Toby came from the kitchen to the family room and said "MOM WHERE IS MY CAKE" !!
Oh my gosh the guilt was on me like a ton of bricks!  Okay....I'm not perfect and told Toby I would make him a cake tomorrow.  (thinking he would forget)...I know it's getting worse,  I can't believe I'm sharing this with anyone reading, but it is what it is, and I'm sure we've all had those guilt mom moments...right?

....so came the next morning and I figured my 5 yr. old would forget the whole cake incident and my guilt would slowly go away and life would get back to normal.
Uhmmmm......no.......Toby got in to my cake cupboard and pulled out a chocolate cake, a white cake, a strawberry cake, and a lemon cake, then carried them with him through out the day reminding me to make his cake.

Well his birthday was Tuesday and Today is Friday and I carried that guilt with me for 4 DAYS!!  Bad mom!!
Needless to say Toby was totally excited when he saw I was actually making cupcakes for him today!!

Guilt feeling a little bit better ;o)
Love you Toby and so..so..sorry!!

9 comments:

Danielle said...

Oh, Jenny. I'm with you. Halloween is Monday, and my kid has no costume. And I quit my job to be home more and be a more attentive parent-- I'd say I've failed. BTW, my son wants to be Yoda... so I can't really wing that. Let's hope I can find something by Monday or my kid is likely to find new parents.

Kathy said...

Yes if we stray from the traditional routine it usually comes back to haunt us even when all logic says "you don't need to do that". Cut yourself some slack on the guilt and have a cupcake :)

Tricia C. said...

In my house, we call this "extending" your birthday. I've kind of convinced myself and my kids that this lets us celebrate longer. Gotta go with the inevitable!

ann said...

been there...we now have Timbit pyramids..I gave up on the cake. Teaching high school full time, 4 kids you know the deal. At some point my sanity had to take front seat. oh yeah , in Canada we have therse 'donut holes' called timbits as they are made at the Tim Horton's coffee shop chain.

regan said...

Toby just gets to be added to the group of my friends that consider their's is a BIRTHDAY WEEK! No guilt now....you were just extending the fun! lol

Melissa P said...

Happy Birthday to Toby! Im sure he loved his cake just as much on Friday as he would have on Tuesday :) You are great Jenny!

Mom said...

Toby. Happy birthday! You look so grown up..what a handsome boy. I love you

Mom said...

I did it Jenny. After seeing Toby I could't resist. It's been tooooo long since I have seen your kids. Missing out on the Grandma experiences. Toby looks more like Taylor. I love your last quilt. Love you

Lowell said...

You are a bad mom. I can't believe you would do that. You should be turned in to child protective services. Just swing by the closest gas station next time and get him a ding dong and throw a candle in it.